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ok... serious thread here, no flaming or spamming please as I am taking this EXTREMELY seriously...

OK... so this girl I know (call her x), (whos best friend I like) split form her boyfriend a few days back...

She then tells me that she fancys one of my friends (say he's y) and that he fancys her, but they dont think it would be a good idea if they got together...

so the next morning i wait at my bus stop and am talking to another of my friends (call him z)... He was bragging on about how he was GARUANTEED to leave school that day with a girlfriend and that he had asked X out... I didnt believe him at the time as I had talked to her the previous day... Then he said that he was also waiting for another girl to get back from holiday so he could 'get with her'

So later I get a text from X saying that she was now going out with Z... shocked as I was i tried a bit to persuade her wawy from her descision but to no avail...

now I dont think that they are right for each other, and dont X to get hurt...
But i also dont want to seem pushy or jealous and jepordise my friendship with her...
Now its not that i 'like like' X, but we seem to have clicked ever since I met her and basically (as corny as it sounds) she feels like a sister to me and I would hate to see her hurt...

I am absolutely stumped on what to do and the whole event has got me really worried...

Any advice or tales of previous events like this that have happend to other people would be greatly appreciated...

Yeah, just let it flow. if things start to go wrong then just support and comfort them.


This is weird coming from me, i normally say finiish it and finish it now.

Why am I always solving relationship problems? OK! Here is what you must do! Tell her that the boy she dates doesn't care for her. That she is just his trophy. TELL her that she is on a road that leads to pain. IF you don't, IF you try to sugar-coat it, you will get NOWHERE! HONESTY is the only way to show you care. You must tell her. You must. You must. You must. TELL HER.

Sephiroth Now Wrote:Why am I always solving relationship problems? OK! Here is what you must do! Tell her that the boy she dates doesn't care for her. That she is just his trophy. TELL her that she is on a road that leads to pain. IF you don't, IF you try to sugar-coat it, you will get NOWHERE! HONESTY is the only way to show you care. You must tell her. You must. You must. You must. TELL HER.

I really have to disagree here. There is absolutely nothing to suggest that their relationship wont go well. She's already made her decision, chances are she'll stick by it. Unless this guy she goes out with chronically abuses his girlfriends, then you cant predict how it will end. You cant make someone elses personal decisions for them, if it ends badly she'll eventually get over it, it wont be the end of the world.

I can say this; though Z said he was hooking up with another girl on the holidays he could have very well been lying to you. This is because you know haow when guys get around other guys bragging/bausting occurs IN MOST cases. Though I am saying this from my experience because I am a guy, and I have five brothers, and I have had MANY girlfriends, and so have they, but I'm sure most of the stories/ experiences shared between the guys about the girl probably didn't happen. So I say to you, "Don't call anyone one on anything, until you actually are certain that the only direction they can go is downwards" Otherwise you might lose friend Z & X by intervening in something they both feel is legitimate.

But heres to hoping all the stress/ drama in your situation disappears. CHEERS!!=)

You can take my advice or ignore it. I don't really care. I just give advice, I don't say people have to take it. That is my say on the matter. People get hurt, they get over it in time. But if you care about people, you will try your best to keep the hurt from happening. Whatever will be will be and that's what your going to have to live with. But can you live with yourself knowing you never tried to help?

In my humble opinion, I think you shouldn't get envolved. Don't say anything. Only say something if someone asks it, if not, just live on and ignore, even if you think it's hard to do this. I think this would be the best way for YOU, for your friends I don't know.

i think ill take the majority advice for now... im gonna leave it and see how it all folds out over time...
at least I can be there IF it goes wrong huh?