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Believe in long-distance relationships? - Cloud Stryder - 02-11-2006
"to have "life" together"
i think this is what iv been wanting to hear, thats what i feel it should be too.
wish you well and hope you both find eachothers arms one day
Believe in long-distance relationships? - Teh EkwEE - 02-11-2006
Mirinee Wrote:I think the reason you haven't found anyone is because the right person hasn't turned up.
"I love you" can mean a lot of things, but if it is true love, I think it should be expressed by what I do more than what I say. I take love quite seriously. I'm the type of person who does not fall in love easily at all.
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Oh, it is cruel to be forced apart. X_X I created this thread because this other person once mentioned about not believing in long distance relationships. To be honest, I didn't either, but the love between us is beyond just romantic attraction. We respect and admire; there's commitment and trust. All mutual. We're grateful for this. There's nothing wrong for longing, and you're right, love shouldn't involve suffering. We're not, at least not for the time being. ^_^ I'm going to believe.
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What do I feel I would most like to do with someone I love? What kind of love? Lust? >_< *nosebleeds*...
Dream activity? There are just so many things to list. I wouldn't mind walks along the beach/dinners/hanging out with friends/diving/studying/playing PSO!!!/mountaineering/playing or listening to music/sports/parenting(!)/...anything. Essentially, to have 'life' together.
Platonic love can be very strong too, and familial love. Love love.
Love is a loaded word, and is used far too often in society to explain things that, because of people's low vocabulary, have much better descriptions. You can love your friends, but to what extent? Is it the same way you love your spouse? I doubt it.
Believe in long-distance relationships? - Cloud Stryder - 02-11-2006
yes i agree with this... love as a word is loosing somthing..
when i speak of what is love to you guys, i dont mean it in loving of the world and friends kind of way... there is a difference in having someone who doesnt have to care for you but does isnt there? its as though its a completly different emotion all together, i have never been or had someone to look at me with this type of caring eyes, but just the thought of it gives me a feeling that is different inside.
how would you give words to such a thing... I am very interested understanding how to become someone worthy of such things and is why i ask what is this "Idea", what is the heart two people see eachother with.
perhaps thinking about such things offers people vision, a veiw that its ok to care for someone and not feel they are being less manly, I have heard this is something easyer for females... but why? if love is something we both share and both want why not support eachother in expressing such things.
sorry i realise this is perhaps not such a comfortable topic, i wont ask such things anymore unless people want to share what they think, what they want.
Believe in long-distance relationships? - Mirinee - 02-11-2006
Yes, there are different types of love, Teh Ekwee. It's easy to differentiate between them and most people can. As I said before, with the kind of love that Cloud is talking about, it can be expressed in many more much effective ways than just "I love you".
Cloud Stryder Wrote:how would you give words to such a thing... I am very interested understanding how to become someone worthy of such thingsI hardly think it is someone to 'become'. If you think you are, then you are. Are you worrying? Just be yourself (oh god, I sound like someone from some Disney movie now). XD
From where did you get the idea that it's unmanly to care for someone? ... I disagree.
I'd just ask away. People can choose not to reply, right. ^_^
Believe in long-distance relationships? - Cloud Stryder - 02-11-2006
Mirinee Wrote:From where did you get the idea that it's unmanly to care for someone? ... I disagree.
i also disagree, its just... how people seem to act when they talk about things like that. I cant understand why they would...
its always felt to me that its somthing you become, would have to become... I cryed alot when i was young.. i think people who think just because they are family they can treat you any way they wont arnt right... you have to offer it to get it in return ,no?
... i shouldnt, but i made a decision a little while ago that i would do my best to open up more and find out how to do such a thing, so i will click submit.
Believe in long-distance relationships? - Teh EkwEE - 02-11-2006
We all sound like pussies for just voicing our opinions in this thread....but meh. Uncomfortable topic it is not.
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Believe in long-distance relationships? - Anti Hacker - 02-11-2006
It is a masculine trait to laugh or shrug off emotional pain, or to care a little less about things. But then, who wants to be masculine? I'm a guy and I certainly couldn't give a damn how good people thought I was at being 'manly'.
The real question isn't "is caring un-manly?" but "is being manly a good thing?" - I find girls open up more and respond more if you can show you're more intelligent and affectionate than the average ox. So what is people call you a pussy? What is that insult anyway? Oh god no! I'm a small cat! At least I'm not a bull on steroids so put that in your hyper-masculine pipe and smoke it
Believe in long-distance relationships? - pink - 03-11-2006
Here here! Tough guys are so uninteresting and ANNOYING. Word to the wise people out there... the kind of women you'll pick up from being an emotionless ox, are a bunch of equally emotionless, desperate, or SHALLOW women that only care about looks.
Sweet and innocent people like me require someone with a big heart... no one question my description of myself... pretty please? O=)
Believe in long-distance relationships? - Cloud Stryder - 03-11-2006
lol, its good to hear though
Believe in long-distance relationships? - Faulkie - 03-11-2006
I do think that a LOT of males are uncomfortable about talking about their feelings. I'll give one really good example of me and my friend at school.
In maths we often talk about stuff like that, and how different our attitudes are towards it. He finds it strange that I wouldn't have sex with some random stranger (even if there was no way my girlfriend would find out) and I find it strange that he says he would.
He also finds it strange that I actually say that I love my girlfriend to other people than her. To him it seems like something you just say to make someone happy without actually meaning it.
I find it hard to believe that he truly thinks that... but maybe he does, I dunno. I'll never understand his way of thinking. But the point is, stereotypically teenage guys are supposed to be like that and most people just live up to that.
Oh well I don't care about conforming to the stereotype, I know that my life is much better living as me. And if that makes me any less manly, then...
PFFT!