Those in Charge

[Teh EkwEE]

Hehe, unfortunately I'm 22. It's not really old I know but once you leave your teens and education the transition is like going from playing normal to ULT difficulty

And I'm not that wise, but thanks for saying so! , just it's easier for me to be impartial because I'm relatively an outsider.

The typed word is vastly open to interpretation in terms of emotion and intent; things we take for granted with voice communication (anything from the tone to accent that people use), so to fill in that lack of understanding - and because in a community situation we don't just look upon it all as truely faceless words, we fill in the blanks by assuming certain readings determined by our opinions or guessed agendas, if you will, of individuals. Put simply we like to construct people in our heads as we get to know them through this as adopting certain character and personality traits that we use as a basis for our relation with them because obviously we usually have no other means to get them from. Sometimes our imagined reading can be spot-on or close since a lot of the jigsaw pieces are there for us to see simply because some people can express themselves and their personality well but cautiously in this medium. Often though we can totally misread things, and usually through no real fault of our own, and get the wrong end of the stick because of how we've grown to see someone's attitude towards us. Usually this can spiral from someone simply correcting someone once or twice into that corrected person, over a period of time, thinking the other has a serious vendetta against them!

So I guess what I'm trying to say (longwindedly!) is the more involved you are in a forum the harder it can get to stay level-headed about things despite your true nature.

This forum is blessed in that it has a healthy core of individuals prepared to talk things over no matter what is said. Disagreements and misunderstandings will happen but just like in real life (except x a thousand times worse!) it's important to remember people don't always mean what they say... or indeed how you may read it!

This could easily be put into context by looking at DM and Decs........ Apparently Decs hates/hated DM.......but DM filled in the blank spots, and came up with Decs hating him....which is utter bs, but that is how DM feels.

Or you could also look at my severly wrong guestimations of Anjiru's situation with her boyfriend.....I filled in the blank spots with things I know of people in my own life. Your point is extremely well spoken RD.