i wonder why it is people feel they need to live up to such things... in australia alcohol is a big problem but many people go down this road and drink till they are out of it, and think its great... why would you do such a thing... why treat others badly just because you can...
mm so many questions ><
but i like what you said " I know my life is much better living as me"
this is a great though, thank you.
No problem. It's true though, you should do stuff your own way (well... unless "your own way" involves killing people or something :/) and don't bother worrying about what other people are doing. As long as you're happy and you're not hurting anyone it's all good.
Oh yeah, and moving onto alcohol (a bit off-topic but I like discussions like this), I reckon it's ok in moderation but when people drink so much they don't know what's happening it's just worrying. I once heard that one of my friends was walking home completely wasted. And that was a few miles through a REALLY rough area. Drunk. MAN was I worried. He was ok in the end, but he shouldn't have gotten like that really. :/
I got like that once or twice by accident. It's no big deal though, I had some good friends to help me out at the time and I'd have done the same for them if they had needed to drown their sorrows
It is irrisponsible to drink to that degree though, particularly on a regular basis.
I myself don't drink at all anymore. It got boring and hangovers got old. And anyways I have a girlfriend now, to put myself in a situation where 'silly' things might happen is not responsible or loving. I don't miss the drink, though.
Just flow your own way, don't follow the crowd. The crowd is mostly made up of chavs and emos, and who wants to be either of those things? It's either being shallow or giving the illusion of depth. If you want to have true depth break the mould a little.
Quote:Just flow your own way, don't follow the crowd. The crowd is mostly made up of chavs and emos, and who wants to be either of those things?
That's irrelevant. However you dress, whatever you like to do or whatever music you listen to, you're still different from anyone else with similar intererests.
Quote:And anyways I have a girlfriend now, to put myself in a situation where 'silly' things might happen is not responsible or loving.
Yeah I agree. I had to find out the hard way though. :/
Haha, from reading those posts, my perception of being 'manly' obviously differs a lot from its actual meaning. All these issues arise just because men are homosocial by nature. ... The topic of masculinity is very intriguing. XD
Yes, Miss Sweet and Innocent, I guess that 'tough guys' will eventually pick up what they deserve, and they won't mind it either (since they deserve nothing more.
Have I insulted a lot of people now? Uhoh. :S).
I like your way of thinking, Faulkie. It saddens me to know that stereotypical teenage boys are this shallow and immature. It seems the majority of the population doesn't believe in true love.
Yeah it's sad but true. I go to an all boys school so people are more likely to say stuff like that since it's always out of girls' earshots.
But then whenever they are with girls they're like "I love you" and stuff...
It annoys me when people do that, because obviously if they really loved them they'd be able to say it in front of their friends.
I guess it happens with girls too though. Eventually the guys that just want sex will find the sluts and it'll all even out.
*Sigh* My male friends tend to annoy me sometimes. It seems that you can't really talk to them seriously about anything. That's why I reckon girls are better to talk to about actual stuff.
Faulkie Wrote:That's irrelevant. However you dress, whatever you like to do or whatever music you listen to, you're still different from anyone else with similar intererests.
Excuse me? Who said I was talking about how people dress? If you think it makes you emo or whatever other stereotype you choose to speak of just because of how you dress you are sadly mistaken.
I couldn't care less how people dress, it's how you act. If you make your own feelings the centre of the universe and blow minor urban problems out of proportion then you're an emo and I don't care if you're wearing bright yellow and pink polka-dot shorts frankly.
When people struggle in third world countries to survive, when they fight for each drop of water it's so selfish to say you want to die because "Oh noes my relationship didnt go how I wanted!" - People like that should get over themselves.
Truth is, when people have reason to be depressed they don't have the time. Se any emo Africans? No? Didn't think so.
^ In a nutshell being an 'emo' is just as shallow as being your average slut. If you only portray the illusion of depth and sensitivity in yourself to 'get in with someone' I think it's pretty poor.
As for people pretending to love someone but not admitting it in front of others, well I won't even be friends with someone like that. It stands against everything I believe in.
Face it, all these stereotypical groups are based on nothing more than people just "going with the crowd". All that will change in time. But deep down everyone is different, it doesn't matter how much you "act emo". It's as irrelevant as "dressing emo", because these things are just on the surface. What's inside is the real you and will probably not change with time. If you get to know someone properly you'll likely be surprised as to who they really are.
Quote:As for people pretending to love someone but not admitting it in front of others, well I won't even be friends with someone like that. It stands against everything I believe in.
Not everyone is perfect. You have to accept people and let them live their own lives, even if they do things that you personally think is wrong. What's the point in obsessing over one thing that you don't agree with if other than that they're a good friend to you?
E.g. I'm a vegetarian but do I refuse to speak to people who eat meat? Of course not, that would be ridiculous.
i think being "manly" or whatever is nothing to think about, isnt it better to do your best to become a good person, to treat others with respect and help out when you can..
anyway this hasnt anything to do witht he thread so
find someone who will look at you as the most precious thing in the world, and do your best to protect them and show them they are cared for. distance isnt so important, the world is not as large as people think anymore, we have internet, phone and airplanes.
its just finding that person for you is the hard part i think... iv never been on a date or anything so what am i talking for
Hmm... I know this is become completely off-topic but it's actually my favourite thread for a long time. As a moderator I should be telling people to get back on topic, but as someone who's interested in this topic I don't want them too... :/
*Sigh* Back on topic everyone.
I reckon there should be a thread where we can discuss this sort of stuff in general. Anyone up for making it?