Believe in long-distance relationships?

[Mikaelus]

Long distance relationships can work if both people are in the relationship.

As I'm sure you both are =D

[Darkwolf30]

Well it looks like everyones giving postive feedback. I'm sure it will work out.

[Faulkie]

I voted "No" because personally I could never do it. I start cracking up after like 2 days.

However, if you're truly devoted to each other and you can both cope with the separation, then the best of luck to you!

[Cloud Stryder]

maybe i can give you an idea that i had one day, find a flower thats meaningful to the both of you, be it rose or otherwise.
buy a note book and place the rose inside the notebook, in which it will dry and keep forever.
now with this note book right things that you want to know about the one you carefor, even right things that you would want only them to know. if there was somthing that made you think of them add that to.

one day when you have decided to meet and its special to the both of you, give this note book, in doing so you give the one you care for your heart.
the rose at the back is fragile now so it must be taken care of and protected.
but hopfuly it shows that you care.

dont be like those people who miss treat there loved ones. i hear this from guys all the time, how they have someone but its a pain as you have to do things for them.
its no good to be alone, having someone to talk to and who would care for you is a real treasure.

so act like it ^^ may you find your peace one day.

[Teh EkwEE]

Wow, unbelievable, Cloud Stryder is probably the most romantic kid on the planet. I'm a romantic, but he even outclasses me...


On a side note... Lindsey decided to play a game with me last night on the phone. She said something in French and....I don't know French. For a good two hours she led me along on a little puppy dog leash begging to know what she said...And she said something like. "Boys need to be reigned in everyonce in a while." And I said. "But I'm a faithful puppy, I don't ever wander." and then right before I got of the phone with her she told me it meant "I like you a lot." =3

[Mirinee]

Yes, he is quite the romantic type.

and then right before I got of the phone with her she told me it meant "I like you a lot." =3

Ah, très mignon. (That's about my limit in French XD)

Thanks for the advice, Cloud, but preserving a flower is a difficult task . It'd be good to have some liquid nitrogen and a box rather than a notebook since I'd like it to be perfect, unless it is a flattish kind of flower... *Sighs* I'm probably not romantic enough to do this. Every time I try it just ends up being comical or weird instead.

The world needs more romantic people like you guys.

[Anti Hacker]

"You know how I feel about long-distance relationships... will ours survive?"

I've known and loved someone for no less than three years, but now we live a 4 hour train journey apart and it will be at least another year if not two before we can be together again.

For my part, I do believe. I'm old fashioned and I believe in love. We still only love each other but we're both quite busy so we can't visit each other as often as we'd like to. Will emails/telephones/internet videoconferencing, or even "love", save this relationship?

Despite the lack of PSO in our lives recently (that's not really a reason, I'm joking ) I don't want to break up. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone else like this person.

Only time will tell.

Do you believe in long-distance relationships?

You can't answer this question yes or no, it depends on your circumstances directly. 4 hours is a long way away, and many people find video conferencing just shows them what they can't have and hurts them all the more. For others, it can help. It depends on who you are.

No, "emails/telephones/internet videoconferencing, or even "love" alone will not save a relationship. If one of the two of you finds the distance too unbearable there isn't much you can do. Love has to be mutual, and if the other half of the relationship doesnt love you enough to make things work out then it's not going to.

Sometimes two people will decide they had a really great time together but that it can't last any longer. There's nothing radically wrong with that, at least you have positive memories.

Distance is difficult, very difficult. I resolved that issue myself by moving closer to the person I love - but if you have just been forced apart... That's another story. You can't expect someone to withstand such pain every day if they're the kind of person who becomes damaged in that way - it isn't fair.

You need to have a talk the two of you about what is best. No one wants to be tied to their PC 24/7 waiting for someone to sign in or emails. People have lives to live. As long as you can live and love, there isn't a problem. Just make sure that for both of you, distance is not an issue. If it is for even one of you then it's not pleasant but you'll have to go your separate ways in order to become happy eventually.

I'm not saying these relationships dont work, I was in one for a very long time. But if the distance is not going to shrink again within about four years, then it's very painful and some people just can't take that at all. Like all other emotions and states of mind, love is not indestructible. It is very strong and powerful, but if it isn't sent both ways, one rope of love alone cannot and will not hold things together.

[Cloud Stryder]

Wow, unbelievable, Cloud Stryder is probably the most romantic kid on the planet.

lol your very kind, but i dont think so... or i would have found someone by now no?

what anti hacker is saying is very sad but true, probley the most fearful thing, not having love returned and in long distance this is not a good thing, it hurts very much. but I feel there is a way to go about such things...
you see more and more now adays I see people saying "oh i love you" to others very easy and i think this is very wrong... if you give such pure words out so easy it makes it cheap, in this way you never know if that other person feels truly the same as what they say... so becarful about people who speak such things quickly.

but by the sounds of things you two are doing very well, it was very cute that game you played both played...

longing for things is difficult and painful, someone once told me, put it out of your mind and dont dwell on such things... but im not so sure... to have the idea of love, to think about someone and hope they think about you... its very special... at least i hope so ^^
dont be afraid of abit of pain, it shows that you care and want care in return.

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about the drying of the rose, yeah i kind of figured it was abit to bulby for a note book... but to dry out a rose isnt to hard, i use to know someone who would dry them out, while they become delicate, they dont just fall apart in your hands

wish you well ^^ have a great day... mm perhaps i may ask a question to you all...

What do you feel is somthing you most would like to do with someone you love?

dont be... you know... all *nose bleedy*... but think about your dream activity together, i would very much like to know what is love to people.

(sorry its abit personal I guess, dont mean to offend)

[Anti Hacker]

Love is many different things to me. It is stars and sunsets, it is solice and company at the same time. It is the look in someones eyes, by which you can tell there is no person in the world they would rather be with other than you. There's also the love of your friends. Just a group of people sitting around a camp fire, playing guitar and having a drink together as they watch embers strewn across the night sky... Wow I feel really depressed now! See I don't have that any more now I'm at uni. Ah well, win some lose some I guess...

[Mirinee]

I think the reason you haven't found anyone is because the right person hasn't turned up.

"I love you" can mean a lot of things, but if it is true love, I think it should be expressed by what I do more than what I say. I take love quite seriously. I'm the type of person who does not fall in love easily at all.
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Oh, it is cruel to be forced apart. X_X I created this thread because this other person once mentioned about not believing in long distance relationships. To be honest, I didn't either, but the love between us is beyond just romantic attraction. We respect and admire; there's commitment and trust. All mutual. We're grateful for this. There's nothing wrong for longing, and you're right, love shouldn't involve suffering. We're not, at least not for the time being. ^_^ I'm going to believe.

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What do I feel I would most like to do with someone I love? What kind of love? Lust? >_< *nosebleeds*...

Dream activity? There are just so many things to list. I wouldn't mind walks along the beach/dinners/hanging out with friends/diving/studying/playing PSO!!!/mountaineering/playing or listening to music/sports/parenting(!)/...anything. Essentially, to have 'life' together.

Platonic love can be very strong too, and familial love. Love love.